DOs and DON'Ts of a First Date.....

DOs

1. CHOOSE A PLACE THAT YOU ARE BOTH OK WITH....Perhaps a restaurant (Mexican, French, Italian etc.), Starbucks, other coffee shops, Lounges etc.

2. ARRIVE ON TIME - If you are running late, be curtious enough to inform the other party in advance that you running a bit behing schedule.

3. WEAR SOMETHING CASUAL AND DRESSY AT THE SAME TIME.... do not be too casual or too dressy ( You want to be right in the middle).

4. YOUR COLOGNE /PERFUME should be worn lightly - No one 100 feet from you should be able to smell your scent, that just means that you sprayed on too much... Besides, the  party may just end up being nauseated.

5. BE YOURSELF -  You are now on this date to get to know each other...Off course you are not going show her your kwirkiness, that's usually an acquired taste. Be a gentleman, be a lady....

6. TALK ABOUT YOUR COMMONAILITIES - Engage in a conversation about a topic in which you both feel the same. For example - The two of you enjoy extreme sports like climbing, bungie jumping, snowboarding - that will keep the conversation interesting and going, which is better than awkward and forced. Keep it natural and flowing...

7. BE CHIVALROUS / BE A LADY WITH ELEGANCE - (Men) Open the door for her, on the sidewalk have her walk on the side farthest from the road, show her you can protect her from harms way... (Women) - Be gracious in what he does, don't expect him to do these nice things for you and you not express a thank you or a thank you smile.

8. ASK QUESTIONS - these question should be about what the party likes such as what they do on their spare time, hobbies, socially etc.

9. PHYSICAL CONTACT - Make it point to have some physical contact with the other party. For example it could be a slight hug once you first meet, or a kiss or two on the cheek depending on your culture... later in the date you can find a way to touch eachother...(Men) put your arms around her as you are walking, playfully touvh her knee or comment on her bracelet or finger ring and there will be a change touch her hand. (Women) As he makes a joke or states something interesting, tap him on the arm, that can be the forearm or the shoulder (That can be done in a way that he does not notice your intentions).

10. PAYING FOR THE DATE - (Men) Always be ready to pay for the date - Make sure to bring CASH or PLASTIC!!!. (Women) Expect the guy to pay for the date, but it is nice gesture if you were to offer to go dutch or help with the bill some way somehow - a different light is shed upon you when this happen, but genuine though.

DON'Ts

1. LATE - running late, but don't take the time to let the other party know that you will be late - BIG TURN OFF!!!.

2. TALK ABOUT YOUR EX - One the worst topics is to mention your ex and how you broke up and all. ANOTHER BIG TURN OFF!!!.

3. TOUCHY FEELY - Make physical contact, but too much can be a bit scary for either party, which may say to the other party that you are a bit clingy.

4. WEARING FAKE BLING - a bit of shine is good, but too much is just tacky - and this goes for both parties equally.

5. BRAG OR TALK ABOUT YOURSELF ENDLESSLY - We want the other person to know a bit about us, but we have give the other person to share with us about themselves as well.

6. TALK ABOUT MARRIAGE - Its the FIRST DATE, leave the marriage talk for a later date, you don't want to bring about uncomfort on the date with such a topic.

7. ASKING QUESTIONS THAT ARE TOO PERSONAL - When you ask questions that are just too personal, it makes the other party a bit uncomfortable and the date may just end a bit earlier than anticipated.

8. DON'T DRINK TOO MUCH - One of the worst behaviors on a date is just that, ending up Under the Influence of Alcohol - It says you don't have much self control and thus the other party may just not want to see you again.

9. KEEP YOUR CELLPHONE OFF OR ON VIBRATE - It's just plain rude to constantly answer your phone during a first date unless its a very important phone call. Other than that keep your phone from ringing loudly during this encounter.

10. PUSHING THE BILL TO OTHER PARTY - Playing hot potatoes with the check is just not very mature and it's downright tacky and uncivilized.