Signs that you are lacking in the BEDROOM...

People often times wonder what is causing the rift between them and their loved ones...It is usually a result of lack of effort or creativity. People get easily bored of doing the same thing each and every night, therefore someone has to be the one to take initiative to bring about some excitement in that facet of the relationship. No matter how much people downplay the importance of sex in the relationship, the truth is that sex is very much important for the livelyhood of the relationship. When things go well in that department everything else just falls into place...provided that you are compatible.

1. Lack of interest in the bedroom from either him or her.

2. He or She seems to be easily annoyed with you...this sign could also mean that he or she may be stepping out on you.

3. Making you happy seems to be a thing of the past.

4. She seems to cringe at the thought of it. At the sight of you in sexy wear doesnt put a roll of quarters in his pants than there is something that needs changing on your part.

5. Your interests seem to be of no importance any longer...Smiles are no longer abundant.

Is He of She Cheating? The Tell Tale Signs...

1. If he or she is not the fashionally savvy, and there is a sudden significant change in her wardrobe then there is something going on...

2. If he or she begins to mention an old friend or coworker in a very vague mannner and will not elaborate.

3. If she nags constantly and begins to habitually point out your flaws. This helps her elimanite and ease her guilt.

4. If he suddenly starts frequenting the gym, when he cared less for his physique in the past.

5. She buys new lingerie and you have been having relationship issues for the past few months.

Signs that your relationship is just SEX.

1. He or She seems to always call to come over at around 10 PM or later.

2. His or her phone or text messages are usually sexually charged.

3. He or She does not make much of an attempt to get to know your family and friends.

4. The time you usually spend together is usually at his of her place.

5. Communication is limited - excuses are usually "Been busy", "Meant to call you, got sidetracked at work".

Why Men and Women Cheat

As it has been widely said - Men and Women are different. Concurred!! What makes us different is the way in which make our decisions - that is our thought process. MEN tend make their decisions from a LOGIC standpoint whereas WOMEN usually makes decisions based on EMOTION.

WOMEN

REVENGE - Most women tend cheat as of result of being hurt in the present relationships. Depending on whom they are dating or married to, it could be something they have enduring for quite some time and thus out of fatigue of the whole situation women will veer off into wrong doing herself.

 LACK OF INTIMACY - At times relationships appear very happy and content on the surface, but on the deep end of it there are troubles. Sex is just one ingridient in the intimacy sector. A woman wants to feel wanted and loved. They want to be touched, hugged, spend quality time. Anything that will give her a sense of closeness. If these things are lacking, then expect certain things to change on her end and perhaps that just may be another man.

SELF - ESTEEM - If your girlfriend or wife has self esteem issues, cheating may satisfy her need to feel good about herself. However this does not mean she is inclined to take that kind of action, it all depends on how the guy beside her makes her feel. If he pays her full attention, pays her compliments - there may be nothing to worry about.

BEDROOM  MONOTONY - Have you ever of the saying "Women Just wanna have fun", well its true even in the bedroom. They want you to be creative in every way possible in the bedroom. They can lose interest in sex just as quickly as they become interested in the first place. If it gets monotonous, then its downhill from there, she will lose interest in having sex with you, and eventually even lose interest in you.

NEGLECT - Women want to feel appreciated and loved. They want to hear certain things like "Thank you", "I love you", "I missed you", " I was just thinking of you". They never want to feel like you could care less althought at times it can wake them up and show you the same in return, because it can happen the other way around.

MEN

EMOTIONAL DISSATISFACTION - As much as tabloids and people seem to say about men not being emoitional beings. It is not all about the physical intimacy as society usually portrays men to be. Men have a need to feel appreciated as well, they are just not very good at expressing their emotions as women are. Although men don't explicitly ask for, they need affirmation as well.

LACK OF INTIMACY -Men also need her to be creative. They want a ladies in the STREETS and a freak in the bedroom. He wants to know that his girlfriend /wife wants be as intimate with him as he wants to be with her. One big turn off for men is a girlfriend / wife whom constantly turns him down for sex or other sexual adventure.

CONSTANT PETTY ARGUMENTS - There is nothing more annoying then a women who constantly nags and loves to argue. This tends to drive the relationship apart. Ok, men are not perfect and at times they need a push to do certain things, but if overdone it can be detrimental to the relationship, which causes them to lose interest and eventually begin to look at other ladies that may treat him better.

EGO BOOST - Yes!! man are guilty of wanting to stroke their egos and the thought of being able to get the next hot girl eventhough he may already be taken is satisfying ego wise. But it also all depends on the woman he is with. Does she make him feel good when they are together? Does she stroke his ego?

First Date Conversation Topics

First dates are very nerve wracking experience if you are one is not quite experienced in dating. Therefore, knowing exactly which topics to cover without delving too deep into anyone's personal life is essential to perhaps landing a second date.

1. HIS /HER PAST - avoid this topic at all costs, it just puts a damper on the date. The purpose of the first date is to see how you gel together at first glance. That is a topics for future dates, preferrably by between date 6 and 10.

2.  FAMILY - This is a favorable topic because it gives you a little background on each other, and for the most people enjoy talking about their families - that is if they are close and no conflicts exist.

3.  FREE/ FUN TIMES - People just enjoy speaking about what they love to do for fun. whether that is hanging out with your friends, enjoying a good laugh at the comic strip, sightseeing, visiting new cities etc. Covering this topic gives each party pertinent information on where to go or what to do on any upcoming dates.

4. WORK - Provided that we are happy with our jobs, talking about it is something that a great number of us enjoy devulging information on...It gives you pertinent information as to whether this person is career oriented or just someone who goes to work everyday and is happy with that. Nothing wrong with that, but you are not that type of person, you would probably choose to forgo the next day since we tend to want to associate ourselves with people who in some way or another are like us.

5. NATIONALITY - This topic should actually be ranked # 1. This can even be used as a pick up lines to gain the interest of the person in having a conversation with you. Again, people tend to enjoy talking about themselves, especially if they are proud of where they are from.

Should Men or Women pay on the date???

All too often the question does come up as to whom should pay the check/ bill at the end of the date.  It is widely agreed between both men and women that on the first date that men should pay. However, there has been a long debate as to whom should pay thereafter.

Men have their reservations as to why men should not be paying for every date - They are as follows;

1. PAYING FOR A WOMAN'S ATTENTION - It comes across as though we are paying for the woman's attention... If it is ever going to get past the dating phase then there needs to some kind of sharing. Besides a relationship is a shared venture and not a one-sided journey...

2. EQUALITY - The term equality should not only apply to certain things like equal pay in the workforce, or being treated equally respect wise....Equality should apply to everything and not only when its convinient to the women...If we are going to be equals - we should be equals in all aspects of life. And  "No" I do not condone INEQUALLY as I feel that all man ( Men and Women) are equal.

3. SIGNS - To us men. a woman that expects to be wined and dined on each date eventhough they have been dating for a good amount of time (Ex. over 6 months) - This comes off as if woman has no intension in becoming an equal partner in the relationship. It also comes off as egoistical on the woman's part - since many women have been quoted to say " What can he do for me" - A relationship is not and should not be about what the man can do for women financially. That is a recipe for the D word.

Women have their own assertions as to why men should be paying for every date - They are as follows;


1. PROVIDER - Women believe that the evidence of men covering the bill at every date/ outing they have says that the men they are dating will possibly be a good provider.

2. PAMPERED - Women want to be pampered and taken care of. They seem to feel that way when the man is able to easily cover the expenses.

3. SECURITY - To women this says alot about furture financial security with the men they are dating.

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Becoming your girlfriend / boyfriend 's priority - Men & Women

Becoming your love interest's priority is not hard at all, provided that he/she already cares a great deal about you - Here are some among many things you can do to bring that about.....

1. PAY CLOSE ATTENTION to their likes and dislikes - Show them that you are attentive to their wants and needs. Now there is a limit to everything, don't shower her/him with so much attention that they would feel you are obsessed with them.

2. BUY A GIFT - Sometimes we mention things that we would love to have to our girlfriends/boyfriends that don't always expect them to take action and go ahead purchase that item for you. Those gifts are at times the most meaningful ones, so if you were listening to what they were saying you would what to get them and essentially put that bright luminous smile on their faces (This at times brings you closer as a relationship) - Now don't go crazy buying you girlfriend/ boyfriend everything that they say they would love to have. The saying goes "Too much of anything is not good for anyone".

3. TAKE IT UP A NOTCH - Everytime you get down (have sex), make sure that its better than the last. The purpose of being amorus it's not just to satisfy oneself, but to be sure to satisfy your partner. "What you give is what you get". After a while is can get monotonus, which would negatively affect your relationship in the long run.

4. HE / SHE IS NOT GRANTED - Do not take your love interest for granted ever!! There are so many temptations out there that one slip by you can cause him/ her to go look for that attention elsewhere....That probably would not feel so good to you.....

5. KEEP YOUR ATTRACTIVENESS - Whatever it is that you did in the beginning of the relationship to get your girlfriend/ boyfriend so interested in you - KEEP DOING IT, Just modify it from time to time. If that was dressing very nice they he or she likes, your attitude towards him/her.